Just get on with it
Posted on 28th April 2019 at 12:40
Do you ever hear yourself say: “Just get on with it”?
"Just get on with it"- isn’t that something that just you say to yourself?
Where does that come from? In this blog Cassie explores boundaries, perhaps a lack of them, and why we do what we do, in business and at home.
"Just get on with it." I used to say this to myself quite a lot, particularly when maybe I was in overwhelm, but I didn’t realise I was in overwhelm.
I was just doing what I do, which is juggle lots of things at the same time. In fact I became pretty good at that, actually I am still very good at that, but I’m getting better at not doing it so much.
Just bet on with it, where does it come from? For me, what I realise was, it’s a generational thing. All the women in my family, going back as far as I could see, all the women in my family have just got on with it.
They haven’t accepted help or support from other people. So I was curious, I wonder why that is? I wonder why people don’t ask for support? Why the women in my family haven’t asked for support? The conclusion I have come to is; because they don’t want to be seen as not coping.
They don’t want to be seen as not being strong, they don’t want to be perceived as being weak. They don’t want to be perceived as not being good enough. It’s like a big silent sigh inside, a big heavy mass, big worry. There is a lot weighing on shoulders behind this, this huge invisible weight behind it.
It slows people down, I think what a lot of this comes down to, is your boundaries for yourself. If you’re not doing things for yourself, to look after yourself, then how on earth can you show up as your best?
How can you show up in your business and deliver your very best products and service for your clients? How can you show up in your business and demonstrate and show the very best value for the people that you work with, if you’re not showing up as your best?
So the same things applies when it comes to home. There are lots of Mums out there that I’m connected with who run businesses. They have kids of all sorts of ages, even when the kids are in their 20’s the Mums are still running around doing things for them.
However, they are not taking care of themself, this is where the generational thing comes in. Does it run through the generations of your families where there is a habit and a pattern for people to not put themselves first? Is there a generational belief in your family that you are continuing to live on that says that it’s selfish to put yourself first. I am really curious?
So I have three rules for living which I have recently shared with a group of wonderful ladies who I have been working with on the group coaching program that I run. I am going to share some of these with you going forward. Watch this space for more blogs and check out Cassie’s facebook page. Leave a comment below with your thoughts and experiences of just getting on with it.
This blog is inspired by a Facebook Live Video. To take a look at more videos from Cassie, check out Cassie Footman - Success Coach.
About Cassie Footman
Cassie delivers success coaching for personal and business success. Discussing what your goals are, the steps towards achieving those goals and what to do when you get there! What comes next?!
Cassie works with entrepreneurs, start-ups and established small business owners to help them navigate their way to achievement, fulfilment and a sustainable level of rewards. Through group coaching, events and public speaking Cassie works with groups and individuals to build on existing successes or help to get new business owners using their talent effectively to secure those much-needed sales and strategies for starting from the beginning in business ownership.
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